A Woman Does Not Need To Be Torn Down For You To Appreciate Another

In today's society, it has become increasingly & alarmingly easy for people to not only inflict their opinions on to the world, but it has also become alarmingly "cool" for people to hate & berate others.

Now, of course, this might shock some people, but guess what? This "trend" isn't a new trend for women. Shocker, I know. But this thing where it's suddenly so cool & hip(I guess I'm officially old now, having just used the word hip) to hate & berate, women have been dealing with this for years. Allow me to explain.

A person, more commonly, but not limited to men, will see two women, & their first instinct will be to compare the two; pit the two against each other automatically.

In a religious society, a woman who's covered up is automatically seen as the better one in comparison to a lady who's not covered up. In a workplace environment, a woman who's made more of an effort towards her appearance is seen as the better one than a woman who doesn't dress up, regardless of her circumstances. 

Ah, but circumstances; the very pretty, very easily neglected word. Who cares if a woman's circumstances don't allow her to have the luxury other women do; main thing is, she must be pitted against every single woman in the world.

Who cares that she's very proud of her friend achieving more than her, & who cares that she's comfortable with this. Lady A is not as successful as Lady B, so she must automatically be jealous & judgemental of her; never mind that Lady B might be extremely happy with her situation, & has different aspirations in life than Lady A.

Now don't get me wrong, I'm not saying a little competition isn't healthy; by all means, it is indeed a good source of motivation for everyone. But how come two men are never pitted against each other? How come it is never said, since Man A is earning more than Man B, the latter must be so jealous, & will have to outdo Man A to be happy? Oh but maybe Man B doesn't have the same circumstances, the poor thing.

My question here, is that why is the society so much more willing to make excuses for men than it is for women? Why is it so easy to understand men than it is to understand women? Why must you shame one woman for dancing a certain way, but appreciate another for something that suits the narrative?

Why must, say, Beyoncè be pitted against Adele? Aren't they both incredibly successful ladies, loving what they're doing, & don't people listen & enjoy both of them? Where does it say if you like one, you can't like the other? Who says you have to pick between the two?

Women all around the world are doing great things, without being acknowledged or applauded for; we don't need people to pit us against each other & to choose one over the other; most of us are very happy & very comfortable with our situations & where we are.

If you really cannot stay away from talking about women, please learn to empower them, & learn to speak up about & for them. Trust me, you will be a much better person for doing it than you will be vehemently trying to pit any amount of kickass ladies against each other.

Yep.